You just got engaged and we get it, you want to start the planning process and proceed with handling all the fun bits. When planning your wedding, there will be a list of specific things that will be unique to you on your big day; there will also be a second list which more or less is a list of things that you would expect to have or find in every wedding. For some friendly advice, read the below suggestions to help you get ‘it’ right for your big day. These tips will help you be aligned with proper wedding etiquette and avoid making wedding mistakes which will ultimately be your saving grace.
1. Booking a venue before you have a guest list
Deciding on how many guests you want at your wedding is easier to do before you start writing names on a guest list. You should also have a contingency number of an additional amount of people (say 10), in case you have forgotten to include some people when creating your guest list.
Deciding on your desired number of guests is the first thing that will help you book the venue of your choosing. The absolutely last thing you want to do is book a venue that will not be able to accommodate everyone. You also do not want to end up paying for lots of empty and unused space, when you suddenly realise that you have a smaller guest list.
2. Do not be inconsistent with your Plus One policy
The general rule is that couples who are married, engaged, living together or have been together for over a year must be invited together, even if you haven’t met your friend’s partner/significant other. Nowadays in the modern world, lots of couples live together before they get married; there may be some circumstances where people never get married at all; therefore, acknowledging their commitment to one another is the appropriate thing to do. You should be able to tell if your friend or family member is in a serious relationship.
3. Inviting Too Many Guests
Put together a full list of names before you begin any other part of the planning process. Get it as exact to the number of people you intend to invite. The more guests you have the higher your budget will be, which won’t be a problem if you are flexible with your budget. Ideally invite those people you want to witness your special day.
4. Getting Overwhelmed by Pinterest
Having a go to place where you can have a constant stream of ideas and inspirations is helpful for getting you started, but it can also lead to confusion and indecision if you aren’t careful. Pinterest only shows the best of everything which may give brides unrealistic expectations of what they think their ‘dream’ wedding should be. Pinterest pictures usually are taken from big budget weddings which have endless details and perfection that can ultimately be a massive let-down for you if you do not have the appropriate budget in place or are not able to achieve the end result.
5. Have a Contingency Plan for Bad Weather
This is a definite must! You must have a plan B, especially if you are planning an outdoor event which is the majority of cases when you have a destination wedding in a place like Kefalonia. Many couples are tempted to just hope it doesn’t happen, especially in warm climates like Kefalonia, where you will be safe most of the time and not have to revert to plan B. However, nothing in life is foul proof nor should you believe that you know better than Mother Nature. Speak to your wedding planner for any indoor options that might be available if it rains or invest in hiring a tent in case it does rain. Remember however that this should be done six to nine months before your wedding, as you don’t want to be looking for a tent at the last minute, only to find out there are none available.
6. Getting overwhelmed & too stressed
Too many times couples get so wrapped up in the planning of their wedding that the focus shifts from the celebration of their marriage together to a fixation on the details of their wedding. Your wedding should be a fun experience; yes at times it may be a little stressful, but it truly is about your love for one another, not your reception menu or party favours. So, if the wedding planning is getting you too overwhelmed and putting a strain on your relationship, take a deep breath, take a step back and give yourself a break from planning.
7. Not Supplying Enough Information
If you are having a destination wedding in Kefalonia, make sure you do your research beforehand or ask your wedding planner on suggestions of things to do, information on getting around and accommodation. If you’re intending of organising a few events for your guests (either before or after your big day), then you could be considerate and hand out itineraries telling everyone where they need to be and when in advance (provided they want to participate in the events you’re organising).
8. Trying to Please Everyone
This one can be a little tricky especially if you have parents or in-laws helping with the wedding budget. Ideally you want your family and friends to have a wonderful time but ultimately, it’s your wedding. Your priority should be creating the wedding of your dreams, not trying to please everyone because you won’t be able to. Worrying too much about what others think of your decisions will take the joy out of the wedding planning process, causing you anxiety, stress and blur your image of what the real focus is all about. If there is enough food, drinks, entertainment, and love, you know your guests are well taken care of. Anything beyond that – colours, flowers, dresses, venue – should be about what you want.
9. Trying to Do It Alone
Either hire a wedding planner (especially if you have a destination wedding) or at least delegate and use all the resources that are available to you. When people offer to help you, like your mum, future mother-in-law or best friend, make sure you find something for them to do. It can be anything from researching a vendor, helping with DIY décor or posting invitations. Bear in mind that these volunteers, even though they are family and close friends, they don’t work for you, so be appreciative and accept whatever help they are able to offer.
10. Pay for Wedding Insurance
On your wedding day, wedding insurance is a small price to pay for peace of mind. Everyone believes something unexpected won’t happen to them but it’s better to be prepared than completely getting blind-sided.